Divorces can get messy, likely because of the termination of a relationship that at one time was built upon the concept of partnership and co-ownership. Over the course of a lifetime, shared material things are given emotional meaning and become hard to part with. This nonmonetary assignation of value can be a way for couples to hurt each other during the division process. Furthermore, it is never as simple as assigning or assuming blame for the dissolution. As a result, the division of property is not usually a simple matter.
Michigan is a "no-fault" divorce state. Traditionally, marriage was a binding contract that was only rescinded if your spouse committed a "fault" such as cheating. The modern trend is to ditch these requirements and allow divorce for any reason. However, Michigan still requires that you plead the reasons for the divorce. This requirement forces you and your spouse to consider the implications of the divorce and to decide if your marriage is truly unsalvageable.
Michigan, unlike some states, uses a traditional courtroom litigation model for divorce proceedings. This means that it can get very expensive very quickly, especially if you are dealing with high-asset separations. Divorces can take years to wind their way through a Michigan court, all the while you are being sucked dry emotionally, physically and fiscally. You and your spouse will battle over things like discovery, complaints and orders. This is especially true for families blessed with success. The more stuff you have, the more there is to fight over and the more it will likely cost.
To avoid this headache, it may prove wise to try to negotiate a settlement with your spouse before moving to litigation. A negotiated settlement is just that, negotiated. You will get some things you want and some things you won't get. However, this give-and-take is easier, cheaper and more efficient than a standard courtroom battle. It may even allow you to build an amicable relationship with your ex-spouse.
Divorce does not need to be acrimonious or expensive. Take control of your future and find common ground.