Child custody battles can be brutal. When it comes to our children, there is no such thing as too much. This heightened protectiveness is precisely why family law is shunned by so many attorneys. It takes a unique individual to thrive in this challenging environment. However, you don't need a unique attorney. You need an attorney that will place the interests of your child above all others.
As demonstrated recently, not even judges are immune to the acrimony inherent in child custody disputes. This past summer, as you probably read, three children were detained in a juvenile facility for defying a court order. The order in question required that they attend a reconciliation lunch with their father. That same judge is now the subject of a hearing to force a recusal. The interim-presiding Chief Judge refused to grant the motion and instead recused herself from making a ruling. So not only is the original presiding judge the subject of a possible recusal, the Chief Judge, acting as interim adjudicator, was actually rescued. It is possible that a single child custody dispute could see two separate judges recused.
Child custody is so unpredictable that even judges sometimes cannot cope. However, as this article demonstrates, no one benefits when you allow the custody battle to escalate out of control. Children detained, judges being rescued, and both parents spending way too much time fighting rather than raising and loving their children. Divorces do not need to be embittered conflicts. Divorces can and do result in amicable relationships between the ex-spouses. One way to connect with your ex-spouse is to remember that it is the children that matter above all else.
In fact, this is the approach your attorney should take to child custody disputes. Yes, your attorney should vigorously fight for your rights. However, that zeal should not come at the cost of your children's comfort or happiness. Your attorney should remind you to think of what is best for your children. Don't let petty disputes dictate your children's future.
Source: Bloomfield Hills Patch, "Chief Judge Steps Out of Contentious Child Custody Battle, Too," Beth Dalbey, Oct. 18, 2015